Our Style

Listening for what matters.

We take time to listen to your story so we can weave it into the larger narrative of the ceremony. We will come curious about what matters to you, and we can consider together how our ceremony can honour the complexity of who you are (or, in the case of a Celebration of Life, who your loved one is), whether it’s weaving in family/cultural traditions, quoting from a favourite song or film, or finding a role for one of your family members to play during the ceremony.

Thinking outside the box.

The last thing we want is to plug your name into a pre-written template. We will come to our meeting with ideas from past ceremonies, so we don’t have to start from scratch, but we’d love to hear your ideas, and for us to brainstorm together as much as possible. We love trying new things, whether it’s putting a new spin on a time-honoured tradition, creating a new ritual with elements unique to your venue, or adding a moment of humour. We see this as our collaborative effort to make meaning of this event in your life, which will never look exactly like it does in someone else’s life.

Prioritizing inclusion & belonging.

It can feel vulnerable and risky to gather together in ceremony, especially when emotions are raw, and when we’re awkward in trying new things. As we consider how to introduce and frame your ceremony, we focus on building a safe container so people can risk as much vulnerability as is healthy for them. As queer team members, we know what it feels like to be excluded from ceremonies, so we try to choose language, themes, and shared practices that explicitly include all kinds of people, creating belonging for each individual who has made the choice to be there, so that they know their presence matters.

Giving you peace of mind.

We’ll keep making adjustments to the ceremony until you’re fully comfortable with our plans. We’re also very capable of rolling with unexpected last minute changes and surprises. We are trustworthy and reliable hosts and facilitators, and our goal is to free you up to simply show up and experience it, along with the other people you’ve invited to participate, instead of having to fret about the details.